COMMUNICATION

One of the most important thing in marriage is communication. I think most people have communication probably on their top 10 things you need to have to have a successful marriage. How would you ever resolve anything if you didn't say anything to your spouse? How would you know if they were upset about something? Communication is needed in a marriage. As we communicate we need to make sure we are clear about what were are feeling, wanting, and needing. Sometimes when my husband and I are talking we felt like we knew what the other person was feeling, but in reality we didn't. In relationships we talk in "different" languages. Ok, not literally. But we all speak using different words, tones, and use non verbal cues. We need to find out how our spouse communicates. What does his tone mean? What kind of non-verbal cues does he use that I need to act on? We all use different words, tones, and non verbal cues. It's important to find out what are spouse's is. One thing that is important is to make sure our relationship doesn't have "rocks" that add up. Think about when rocks start to build up and up on each other, its hard to move them. The more we keep something in and don't communicate to our spouse, "rocks" add up in our relationship and things don't get better. As we communicate there is no build up. Of course our relationship isn't going to be perfect, but it will get better the more we communicate.