This is our last week in class! This is going to be my las blog post for this class! We talked about divorce and remarriage. This is a touchy subject for some people. I bet some of you reading this have been from families that have had a divorce or remarriage. It isn't something easy! There are different stages of divorce. The emotional stage is when we cut ourselves emotionally from that person. Then there are the stages of legal divorce and economic. Then if there are children involved you have to go through the coparental stage. During this stage you decide about the custody for your children. It mean both physical and legal. Physical is where the kids will live. Legal is if there is 50/50 joint custody or not. There are so many things to decide after the divorce. In studies, a women is less likely to get remarried after a divorce. Why is this so? In class we discussed this and some of the things we came up with are because of time, complexity, emotional, and negative associations. Also, second marriages are much more likely to get a divorce than the first. I'm not saying, all remarriages end up regretting it. My aunt for instance got a divorce from her husband and she is happily remarried. Actually, I have never seen her happier! I think it's different, for different people. Many people have said remarrying is a hard thing. There are a lot of different changes. There are four things we talked in class that can help those blended families. 1. first accept the fact that its going to take at least two years to be "normal"-meaning there are going to be a lot of changes people are going to have to make. 2. the biological parent should do all the heavy discipline. 3.-step parent role is similar to an aunt and uncle role. 4.- have closed door discussions with your spouse. I have never been in a situation where I have had a blended family, but I feel these could help. I think all in all do whats best for your family! Every family is different and needs different things. I think just keeping Christ the center of our families will make transitions in family life a lot easier.
I don't have children yet, but I loved learning the effects parenting has on our children. It helped open my eyes how important it is to be a parent. What is the purpose of parenting? I feel this is a pretty easy question. In my opinion parenting is to teach, provide, protect, guide, nurture, and to love. My teacher pointed out something neat. Parenting is not only for the child, but for the parent. As we parent our child, we learn and grow. I didn't realize what an impact it has on everyone on how we parent. It doesn't only impact us, but it impacts everyone around us. The parent and child have a better relationship. They have more in common, there is acceptance, and better understand between the two of you. What is the purpose of parenting? It is to prepare a child to survive and thrive in a world they're going to live in. How important is that!? We have a very important role as parents. I think it's important to realize what we need to do to become the best parents we can be. There are three different parenting styles. The first is authoritarian. This parenting style wants control and they expect obedience. Some children with parents like this may feel rejected and very controlled. The next parenting style is authoritative. This parent puts clear boundaries using a warm, accepting context. Children feel their parents control their behavior moderately, they can express their opinions, and make their own decisions. Last, permissive parenting. These parents don't have any control. These children are encouraged to make decisions on their own and develop independence with few or no parental guidance. Which parenting style are you? Which one do you want to be? This week I realized what kind of parent I want to be. Of course I'm not going to be perfect, but I want to be the best parent I can be.
I don't have children yet, but I loved learning the effects parenting has on our children. It helped open my eyes how important it is to be a parent. What is the purpose of parenting? I feel this is a pretty easy question. In my opinion parenting is to teach, provide, protect, guide, nurture, and to love. My teacher pointed out something neat. Parenting is not only for the child, but for the parent. As we parent our child, we learn and grow. I didn't realize what an impact it has on everyone on how we parent. It doesn't only impact us, but it impacts everyone around us. The parent and child have a better relationship. They have more in common, there is acceptance, and better understand between the two of you. What is the purpose of parenting? It is to prepare a child to survive and thrive in a world they're going to live in. How important is that!? We have a very important role as parents. I think it's important to realize what we need to do to become the best parents we can be. There are three different parenting styles. The first is authoritarian. This parenting style wants control and they expect obedience. Some children with parents like this may feel rejected and very controlled. The next parenting style is authoritative. This parent puts clear boundaries using a warm, accepting context. Children feel their parents control their behavior moderately, they can express their opinions, and make their own decisions. Last, permissive parenting. These parents don't have any control. These children are encouraged to make decisions on their own and develop independence with few or no parental guidance. Which parenting style are you? Which one do you want to be? This week I realized what kind of parent I want to be. Of course I'm not going to be perfect, but I want to be the best parent I can be.